'I was horrified… [I told] people not to eat the food at my sister's wedding': Mom freezes food from youngest daughter's wedding to serve at oldest daughter's wedding 8 months later

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    Plant - 02.0 r/AmItheAmhole . Posted by u/Tasty-Watercress-190 22 hours ago AITA For telling people not to eat the food at my sister's wedding? Not the A-hole
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    Font - My husband (27m) and I (26f) were married eight months ago. We had a BIG wedding with lots of food and drinks and people. I knew we would likely have leftovers, so had arranged for them to be donated to the soup kitchen we sometimes work with, however, my mom went behind my back and took most of it with her. I didn't really know what happened to the food.
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    Font - Until now. My sister Callie (30f) got married over the long weekend. She didn't want to mess with any of the planning and- knowing how my mom was during my wedding-decided to let our mom take over the whole thing. All we had to do was show up where we were told and party.
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    Font - The ceremony was beautiful, but it was when the buffet was revealed that I noticed something odd. The food looked eerily familiar. Like, identical to what I had for my wedding except for a little more dried out and sad.
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    Font - I found an opening and went to ask my mom about it where she happily told me she "saved a fortune" by unfreezing the food from my wedding to serve to the guests now. I was horrified and immediately voiced my concerns about safety. She got upset and said I was acting like a snob and should be happy the food wasn't going to waste. I argued that it was never going to be wasted, but she wouldn't hear it.
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    Font - I didn't want to make a scene, but was worried about people getting sick so snuck off to see my sister. She was horribly embarrassed- mentioned that mom said something about saving money but didn't question it because she didn't want to foot the bill like I had. She told me not to eat the food and thanked me for the warning.
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    Font - From there, my husband and I discretely started telling some guests to be weary of the food and the rest of the night was fine. My mom caught some flack for being cheap, but I've also been catching heat. Some of our relatives have been saying that I intentionally made my family look bad and that the food was fine as it was frozen and then defrosted for the wedding.
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    Font - They say no one would have known if I didn't make a stink over it. I don't know if I did anything wrong, I could use some help and would like to know if I should apologize. AITA?
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    Font - EDIT: I'm getting a lot of repeat questions, so I figured I'd post here: 1. My wedding had about 200 guests. My husband has a large family and we intentionally planned for more people to come and knew that a lot wouldn't for one reason or another so knew we'd likely have leftovers and wanted to be smart about it.
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    Font - 2. My sister and her husband have been together for about 10 years. They recently decided to get married for tax reasons and wanted to do a courthouse wedding, but my mom BEGGED her to let her do an "event". So, she had a small wedding with only 50 people. My sister HATES planning and people, so she let my mom do everything
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    Human body - 3. Have ya'll ever heard of garage freezers? They're super common where I'm from.
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    Font - TemptingPenguin369 21 hr. ago. edited 21 hr. ago Pooperintendant [69] • NTA. OMG!!! It's not that it was stored frozen for eight months; it's that it sat on a buffet table for god knows how long at your wedding, then in your mother's car, before it was frozen. This is not only tacky but super dangerous.
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    Font - HorseRadish98 - 19 hr. ago My mom told me when I was growing up I always got these "24 hour" flus. I remembered them, throwing up, unable to eat, miserable. It wasn't until I grew up that I realized what it actually was.
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    Font - Food poisoning. She poisoned me many many times by serving expired, dented, damaged food. She leaves food out for extended times, reheats multiple times, whatever. If it saves 10 cents, it doesn't matter if it tastes off. Just scrape the fuzzy stuff off.
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    Font - SlartieB 18 hr. ago Pooperintendant [65] I once got some side eye from my office manager for throwing away some gorgeous homemade cookies with homemade icing that a breeder client made for us. Once I explained how many times I'd found giardia in her puppy fecals and that she kept these puppies in her kitchen because it was the only place in the house that wasn't carpeted, she was quite supportive of my decision.
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    Font - cake_swindler 19 hr. ago One time a coworker of mine asked if I wanted to work this catering gig for her because she double booked herself for 2 parties. It was $20 an hour for walking around a rich persons house with plates of food all night and this was back in the early 2000s so I said absolutely. I had to meet at the caterers house with everyone else to help load food into the cars and that house was so nasty.
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    Font - God only knows how much she got paid, but there were cat boxes overflowing in the kitchen and living room, dogs and hair everywhere. At the end of the night she was trying to get us to eat the leftovers but no one would. Just Nasty.
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    Font - HorseRadish98 · 19 hr. ago It's frankly amazing what cheap people will do to save a few cents. I'm all for not being wasteful, especially with food - but once it's gone it's gone. I feel you, it's hard for me to trust other people's cooking now, and I flat out refuse to eat my mom's food.
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    Font - AllSkateSlowly. 16 hr. ago Also- if you're going to be super cheap, do it in a safe way. If you're a ketchup packet collector, at least don't empty them into the ketchup jar in the fridge. Just leave them in the little packets and use as needed, but holy contamination risk, Batman.
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    Font - ScrevyRevington - 17 hr. ago In high school I started dating this boy and I started getting sick more frequently. I didn't question it at first because I have an immune system disorder so I just thought I wasn't getting enough rest. Eventually I got the chance to see my boyfriend reheat the leftovers from dinner. He simply turned the oven on and set a timer. I asked him about the food and he tells me it's already in there!
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    Font - I about threw up! His Mom used the oven to store leftovers! She NEVER put anything in the fridge! We're talking fried chicken, casserole, roast beef! Unless it was an ingredient, she did not refrigerate! This woman had TWO fridges! They were more empty than full! To this day my doctor believes that eating like that for years damaged the bacteria in my gut! Food poisoning is no joke

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